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Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 24, 2002
I suppose there are aggravate problems than having two men who ambition to share their life with me. However, it namely a honest problem. I do need counsel on arranging this all out.
My former husband and I wanted a newborn and soon had one. The problems in our marriage stemmed from two teen daughters from his first marriage. Their mom jumped warship after 10 years to "find herself [link widoczny dla zalogowanych]," leaving him to raise the girls.
Suffice it to say the girls were highly hard on me, and his family didn't approve that 3 years afterward his divorce, he moved on. We sought counseling, but it didn't determination anything. I grew tired attempting to raise two girls that detested me and dealing with his hostile home.
That was 4 annuals ago. For the afterward two annuals he was so painful I left he wouldn't speak to me, and all communication was through third parties. Life has been laborious for me raising a son on my own. I had to sell the family I bought as the two of us and am still struggling financially.
After two years, I met a man with a son the same age as mine, and the boys rapidly became like brothers. His father and I too developed a close, intimate relationship, and he is financially successful. We've been together almost two years and bought a home with the direction of obtaining marital presently.
My new relationship never had the spark of sexual and emotional intensity my former husband and I shared. Still, we were content until I talked to my former husband for the first period in virtually two years.
Therein lies the arrest. My former husband says as long ashis youngest daughter has pushed out, he is free to live life as he wants. He gives me flowers, writes me love memoranda, and says he wants to dedicate the recess of his years to sending up our son together.
I never fell out of love with him, I just left the wedding alone and quite hurt. He says he, too, spent a long time trying to heal and is immediately prepared to try to put it together anew. We are not having sex. I know better. But my former husband gives me the attention I crave in my current relationship and don't get.
It seems mysterious to me that whether a man actually wanted to share his life with his son and his son's mother, he could stomach them alive with another man. I also detect it unusual that my boyfriend, as one adult man, is willing to tolerate the advances of anyone man toward the woman he wishes to marry.
My third adoption would be to narrate each man [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], politely, that neither made a perfect mate for me. Unfortunately [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], I'm in not rank to be without a helpmate. I'm no holding out for a perfect relationship anymore. I fulfil that fair doesn't exist, at least no in my earth.
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